Just when you think everything is going your way, life seems great and you don’t really have anything to complain about, BAM! Life throws you a curveball and it seems your whole world has been turned upside down.
We know that what is happening is unfavourable and at one point, unimaginable. We feel as if we can barely keep a float and we keep sinking further and further under water. The waves hit from every angle. Left, right and smack bang down the middle. It is scary, and we start to question our ability, we question our faith and a lot of the time, we feel like holding up the white flag and giving up.
Here is the thing….Life WILL throw you waves…often.
Life is unpredictable, and believe it or not, that is actually how it is supposed to be. Why you ask? Because we don’t know what the future holds, we only have now. So at any moment, life can change. However, being human, our natural instinct is to try and control every single situation and outcome. Because of this, most of the time we don’t know how to deal with life’s unpredictable, unfavourable circumstances, and we automatically take our minds straight to the worst outcome.
Some things we DO have control over, and when we do life is great. But a lot of the time, there are things that happen in our life we don’t have control over, and that is when our world feels like it is falling to pieces. This is because being human, we also have this false perception of ‘how it is meant to be’ and if life isn’t that way, then we are doomed. We can’t be happy. THIS is where the problem lies…
So how do we deal with life’s unfavourable waves that throw us underwater, gasping for air?
Acceptance: First we need to be accepting of what is happening. If we cannot accept it, then we cannot deal with it. Acknowledge and accept the situation. Accept that yes it is happening, no it isn’t favourable at all, but these are the cards you have been dealt.
Don’t create your own pity party: As soon as we let our minds create a pity party, if we sit there, we will become stuck. Remember in life you have choices. You can choose to feel sorry for yourself and remain upset, but you know that approach will not be productive nor affective to you or the people around you. So you need to make a choice to become pro active in this situation by simply saying ‘these are the cards we have been dealt, so WHAT am I going to do about it’
Feel your feelings and let go of resistance: When we go through crisis, our natural reaction is to resist it and let ourselves become consumed with negative emotions and thoughts. Believe it or not, when the s#$t hits the fan (so to speak) you have to allow yourself to feel what your feeling in order to move past it. When ever we resist anything in our life, we are just creating a recipe for disaster because we are effectively not allowing life to take its natural path. The more you resist what you don’t want, the more you will actually create what you don’t want. Allow yourself to sit with your emotions, feel them, then decided you are going to move on!
Ask for support and create a plan moving forward: Please, let go of the idea that you have to be wonder women and that you can’t ask for help and support, because you CAN! When we ask for support from the people we love and trust, we are creating a force and power even greater then us, which will allow us to get through a situation more effectively. The human being thrives and survives off human interaction, love and support. So you can understand why we need it more when life takes an unfavourable turn. Get rid of the idea that asking for help means you are a burden, or that it is a sign of weakness. It is actually a sign of strength and if you have done all you can do in a situation, then your loved ones will be more then happy to help how ever they can.
Once you have allowed yourself to feel your emotions, sit down whether it is with yourself, with a partner or loved ones and start creating a plan moving forward. Ask yourself
HOW will you get through this
WHAT can you do
and just MAKE it happen. It is all about being proactive, keeping one foot in front of the other. If you can do that, you are more then half way there and you WILL get through it.
Know that this too shall past, because nothing stays the same forever: This is the beauty of it all. This is what makes the present moment so exciting, yet so frightening at the same time. ANYTHING you are going through in life whether it is good or bad, will not stay the same forever. This means that any difficult time you may be experiencing, is not going to remain, and it WILL pass! You just need to keep your faith bigger then your fear to get you through it.
So there you have it my gorgeous friend. As you finish reading this, I want you to say to yourself, you are going to give up the expectation that life has to be a certain way, or even worse, will be a certain way, and accept that you will be thrown waves, and that is OK.
It isn’t about trying to make unfavourable situations perfect, it is about learning to adjust the sail along the way and ride the wave. See the light side of it if you have to, and trust that all will be OK in your world.
I would love for you to share with me below, when has life thrown you a wave and how have you dealt with it?